Learning to Walk Away
One of the hardest things to do, trust me, I know, I think deep down we all do, is learning to walk away. We are hard-wired from a young age, conditioned to be people pleasers. The last person we seem to think about is ourselves. It doesn’t matter if it might one day kill us, no, we want to make sure no one dislikes us, but here’s the thing. If that person really respects you, then they will respect your decision to walk away, and if not, they never hard your best interest at heart in the first place.
It kills me to say this, but the world still goes ‘round, their world still goes ‘round without you helping. At the end of the day, the only person who can look out for you is you. It’s one of THE hardest lessons to learn. Again, refer back to being a people pleaser. I need you to sit down and ask yourself these questions and answer truthfully. If you answered even one of them as no, you need to re-evaluate your life path.
- Are you happy?
- If you stayed, and its job related and could make more money, would that offset what you’re feeling?
- If you sat down and could do anything in the world, what would it be and why?
- If you’re not doing what you love right now, what’s holding you back?
- Could you walk away from everything and be content?
- Last question, it’s important so it has to be asked several times, are you happy?
Did you answer truthfully? Do you cry yourself to sleep at night? Do you cry when no one is looking? Well, stop. I know what you’re thinking…how can she be so heartless, but hear me out. Our thoughts control our actions and if you think you have no control, then you have no control over anything, BUT if you think you have control and can change the outcome, then I promise you that you can. It’s a matter of simply believing that you can.
Here’s the hard part though, your thoughts cannot waiver. Let me repeat that again because it’s worth repeating. Your thoughts cannot waiver. You can’t think positive one day and think negative the next few days and then wonder why everything is going wrong. Think positive as much as possible, and no I’m not saying a negative thought can’t ever flit through your brain, but there’s a difference between letting it pass, and dwelling on it. If you dwell on the same thoughts, trust me, nothing will ever change, and if you let it happen, accept it, and let it go, you can move onto being positive again.
Part of being human is accepting what we cannot change and always know the difference. Everyone, I don’t care if you’re Gandhi or the Pope has gone through hardships to get them where they are today. Those hardships are what make you stronger. They are what make you, you. Often times, we compare ourselves to someone else, without walking a mile in their shoes. What if they lost a child? What if they lost their job? What if the promotion was the first good news they heard in years, and you didn’t think anything of it, because you’ve already had one? Stop griping and make sure to walk in their shoes first, even if it’s only for a moment. You’ll be shocked what you learn, not only about you, but them.
So here’s the hard truth, if something doesn’t feel right. It probably isn’t. I need you to sit down and write Pros and Cons about your whole life. If something is off, change it. If something isn’t working, fix it. If you can’t fix it, walk away. Head held high and onto what makes you happy. Life is too short to do what you hate. Hard lesson to learn and some of us live and thrive off of the negative. That’s fine. You might not be ready for what we have to say, and we refuse to force our thoughts on you, but if you’re ready to let go and move forward, take that first step. It’s always the hardest, but we promise that you’ll be a million times happier if you’re doing what you love in life.